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How to Increase Your Bottom Line, Lipstick in Hand

Over the years there has been many articles and controversy on this subject.

As you can read below, there are many different opinions. I have personally worked with women for 30 some years and what I have found is bottom line...women want to feel confident and feel good about themselves.

5 Things I've Found True about Makeup:

1. Our Image is "an image" in itself.

We are visual human beings and we evaluate our environment on what we see and hear. We gravitate toward situations that appear welcoming.

2. Make-up is a subject that comes up for most women with confidence or hesitancy.  

I meet women 40+ years old all the time that DON'T know how to wear makeup, no one took the time to correctly show them how to apply it. So they have no confidence and most of the time choose not to wear it because it's easier not to.

3. Do most women want to wear make up and feel prettier - I would say Yes!  

Why? Because there is something about looking in the mirror and saying "Wow, I look good." That thought turns into an emotion which then turns into a belief which turns into how they approach their day.

4. Perception.

There is something visually appealing when we see a woman put-together - hair, clothes, makeup and shoes. Yes, I am an Image Consultant and Yes this is what I help women accomplish. But at the end of the day it is all about the beliefs we have about our self. It's how we see our-self.  When we have positive emotions about how we look and feel, we look at every other area of our life in a new light.

5. If wearing a little more makeup can give a woman more confidence to take on the world, earn more income, and make a bigger difference in the world - I SAY WEAR YOUR LIPSTICK AND BE PROUD!

In a study, women were photographed wearing varying amounts of makeup, from left: barefaced, natural, professional and glamorous. Viewers considered the women wearing more makeup to be more competent.

WANT more respect, trust and affection from your co-workers?

Wearing makeup — but not gobs of Gaga-conspicuous makeup — apparently can help. It increases people’s perceptions of a woman’s likeability, her competence and (provided she does not overdo it) her trustworthiness, according to a new study, which also confirmed what is obvious: that cosmetics boost a woman’s attractiveness.

It has long been known that symmetrical faces are considered more comely, and that people assume that handsome folks are intelligent and good. There is also some evidence that women feel more confident when wearing makeup, a kind of placebo effect, said Nancy Etcoff, the study’s lead author and an assistant clinical professor of psychology at Harvard University (yes, scholars there study eyeshadow as well as stem cells). But no research, till now, has given makeup credit for people inferring that a woman was capable, reliable and amiable.

The study was paid for by Procter & Gamble, which sells CoverGirl and Dolce & Gabbana makeup, but researchers like Professor Etcoff and others from Boston University and the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute were responsible for its design and execution.

The study’s 25 female subjects, aged 20 to 50 and white, African-American and Hispanic, were photographed barefaced and in three looks that researchers called natural, professional and glamorous. They were not allowed to look in a mirror, lest their feelings about the way they looked affect observers’ impressions.

One hundred forty-nine adults (including 61 men) judged the pictures for 250 milliseconds each, enough time to make a snap judgment. Then 119 different adults (including 30 men) were given unlimited time to look at the same faces.

The participants judged women made up in varying intensities of luminance contrast (fancy words for how much eyes and lips stand out compared with skin) as more competent than barefaced women, whether they had a quick glance or a longer inspection.

“I’m a little surprised that the relationship held for even the glamour look,” said Richard Russell, an assistant professor of psychology at Gettysburg College in Gettysburg, Pa. “If I call to mind a heavily competent woman like, say, Hillary Clinton, I don’t think of a lot of makeup. Then again, she’s often onstage so for all I know she is wearing a lot.”

However, the glamour look wasn’t all roses.

“If you wear a glam look, you should know you look very attractive” at quick glance, said Professor Etcoff, the author of “Survival of the Prettiest” (Doubleday, 1999), which argued that the pursuit of beauty is a biological as well as a cultural imperative. But over time, “there may be a lowering of trust, so if you are in a situation where you need to be a trusted source, perhaps you should choose a different look.”

Just as boardroom attire differs from what you would wear to a nightclub, so can makeup be chosen strategically depending on the agenda.

“There are times when you want to give a powerful ‘I’m in charge here’ kind of impression, and women shouldn’t be afraid to do that,” by, say, using a deeper lip color that could look shiny, increasing luminosity, said Sarah Vickery, another author of the study and a Procter & Gamble scientist. “Other times you want to give off a more balanced, more collaborative appeal.”

In that case, she suggested, opt for lip tones that are light to moderate in color saturation, providing contrast to facial skin, but not being too glossy.

But some women did not view the study’s findings as progress.

“I don’t wear makeup, nor do I wish to spend 20 minutes applying it,” said Deborah Rhode, a law professor at Stanford University who wrote “The Beauty Bias” (Oxford University Press, 2010), which details how appearance unjustly affects some workers. “The quality of my teaching shouldn’t depend on the color of my lipstick or whether I’ve got mascara on.”

She is no “beauty basher,” she said. “I’m against our preoccupation, and how judgments about attractiveness spill over into judgments about competence and job performance. We like individuals in the job market to be judged on the basis of competence, not cosmetics.”

But Professor Etcoff argued that there has been a cultural shift in ideas about self-adornment, including makeup. “Twenty or 30 years ago, if you got dressed up, it was simply to please men, or it was something you were doing because society demands it,” she said. “Women and feminists today see this is their own choice, and it may be an effective tool.”

Dr. Vickery, whose Ph.D. is in chemistry, added that cosmetics “can significantly change how people see you, how smart people think you are on first impression, or how warm and approachable, and that look is completely within a woman’s control, when there are so many things you cannot control.”

Bobbi Brown, the founder of her namesake cosmetics line, suggested that focusing on others’ perceptions misses the point of what makes makeup powerful.

“We are able to transform ourselves, not only how we are perceived, but how we feel,” she said.

Ms. Brown also said that the wrong color on a subject may have caused some testers to conclude that women with high-contrasting makeup were more “untrustworthy.” “People will have a bad reaction if it’s not the right color, not the right texture, or if the makeup is not enhancing your natural beauty,” she said.

Daniel Hamermesh, an economics professor at the University of Texas at Austin, said the conclusion that makeup makes women look more likable — or more socially cooperative — made sense to him because “we conflate looks and a willingness to take care of yourself with a willingness to take care of people.”

Professor Hamermesh, the author of “Beauty Pays” (Princeton University Press, 2011), which lays out the leg-up the beautiful get, said he wished that good-looking people were not treated differently, but said he was a realist.

“Like any other thing that society rewards, people will take advantage of it,” he said of makeup’s benefits. “I’m an economist, so I say, why not? But I wish society didn’t reward this. I think we’d be a fairer world if beauty were not rewarded, but it is.

Does This Look Good on Me?

Probably one of the number one questions I receive from clients about the clothing pieces they have in their closet is, “does this look good on me”?  

It’s kind of an interesting thought when you think about it. You bought the item at the time thinking it looked great, right? Or were you on an emotional high to buy something NEW? Or maybe one of the sales people told you it looked good and you believed them. And now you’re doubting yourself.  From experience, there have been times when I bought something I thought I loved, took it home and thought what was I thinking.  I usually take a little more time to discern if it is a good fit and does it really look good on me before I make my final decision to keep it. If for any reason I decide to keep the item but know I feel a little uncomfortable with the tightness around my thighs (for example)…then I probably will find myself not reaching for it. And there it sits until someone comes along and I ask, “do you think this looks good on me”?

My personal mission when working with clients is that they feel not just good but amazing in whatever they wear for the day or occasion.

I believe life is about becoming more of who we are while at the same time seeing all the good that is already there. I believe your clothing and how you show up is just one way to Reveal Your Radiance. Too many people hide behind they’re clothing or simply think clothing really doesn’t matter. Being successful is expressed in how we accept who we are and present ourselves.  I believe we need to feel our most confident self when we walk out the door every morning.

As you move toward Revealing Your Radiance in 2016…something that I can’t do for you but is a necessity, “accept your body” as it is. What I mean by that is whether you are the perfect weight or need to lose a few pounds your ample chest will still be there, you’re still five foot tall, or you still have a booty.  Likely none of those features are going to change, they are part of who you are at any weight. So I suggest you love who you are now, work with your assets and highlight what gives you the most confidence.

To start off 2016 here are a few simple guidelines to help you accept your body as it is and help discern does this look good on me?

1. Accept Your Body! 

2. Verbalize what body parts you feel most confident about!

3. REVEAL YOUR RADIANCE and Be Confident!


Ample Chest: hello waist!

  • When was the last time you were fitted for the correct bra size? Unbelievable on how your girls can look in the correct bra size underneath a beautiful blouse. Most women are wearing their bra too low and it cuts into their defined waist.

  • Check out this this simple video to determine your correct bra size. http://www.lemystere.com/fitguide/measureme

  • Are you an hour-glass figure and didn’t know it? If your waist measures around 9”-13” smaller than your hips or bust, that’s considered an hour-glass shape.

  • Try cinching it in, clothing that show off your waist.

  • V-necks, wrap dresses, ¾ sleeve length, and fitted jackets are your best friends.

Tiny Bosom: you can wear anything without feeling risqué!

  • The opposite of the ample chest but you can feel you have similar issues. Maybe it’s time to get a new bra with some added shape.

  • Show off your neck and shoulders. Try a deep V neckline.

  • Add texture in your fabric or heavy –knit styles to your tops to add fullness which also can balance out your bottom half.

Cankles: no one notices, unless you point it out!

  • Ditch the habit of hiding under wide leg pants.

  • Try heels or flats with a low cut vamp – elongates your foot.

  • Match your hosiery and shoe color.

  • Stacked heel vs stilettos.

  • Keep your hems above the knee cap to show off the most defined part of the leg…just below your knee.

Big Booty: own your ample derriere`!

  • Don’t mask it. Trying to hide your butt with oversize pieces can make you look wider everywhere else.

  • Dresses with cinched waists.

  • Body-con style dresses that hold you in place and stretch with your curves.

Pancake Butt: you can rock the boosting powers of stretch fabrics!

  • Have you tried a Jumpsuits? They are perfect for you. Cinched waist, loose fitting top with bottom skimming qualities.

  • Put the focus on waist definition. This will take the focus off your bum. Look for darts around the stomach area in dresses or shirts.

  • Heavy texture or thick fabrics for butt boosting.

Little Me: heels are your best friend!

  • You can go with a shorter hem length – keep it at or above the knee or if you’ve got spunk go for the mini.

  • Patterns – you can pull them off but keep them on the smaller scale.

  • Jeans – try a wider leg or boot cut style while wearing a higher shoe without fulling exposing your footwear.

  • Statement necklaces move the eye up but keep them in proportion to your size (including your face shape).

Curvy Girl: you don’t have to be skinny to feel sophisticated, put-together and yes, sexy.

  • Look for pieces that can be adjusted to your own figure like wrap dresses and belted coats vs. shapeless pieces.

  • Make color and patterns work for you. Attract attention to your most confident areas. While dark hues will downplay problem areas.


What I have discovered when working with ladies of various shapes and sizes is that whether you wear a size 2 or 22 we all have issues that we are confronted with.

1. Accept your body!

2. Verbalize what body parts you feel most confident about!

3. REVEAL YOUR RADIANCE and Be Confident!


Annette Bond is a Personal Image Consultant who works with professional men and women over 50 who feel ordinary, old or overweight. She helps them to reveal their radiance so they can become more of who they are and walk into the world with more confidence and success.


Programs offered:

  1. Reveal Your Radiance Signature Program
    A 6-step all-inclusive program that includes style assessment, color consultation, closet makeover, personal shopping, makeup and hair consultation.

Are you in a place that you know a transformation is essential to stay current and relevant in how you are presenting yourself to the world both professionally and personally? Are you a professional who is great at what you do, but not in the style department?  Do you need to start from the ground up – from knowing what silhouettes, styles and colors look good on you to organizing your closet more effectively? Desiring the end result to be a successful wardrobe that is timeless yet up to date, combined with pizzazz but still simple to mix and match

2. Re-imagined Wardrobe
A 3-step program that turns your boring closet into a completely Re-imagined Wardrobe with 25 NEW Outfits…Guaranteed!

Are you frustrated each morning when you have to get dressed because your clothes are tired and lack pizzazz?  Do you feel overwhelmed when trying to decide what to keep and what to get rid of in your closet? Do you have some great pieces but need help with mixing and matching the clothes you already have in your closet?

Contact me at annette@annettebond.com for more information on how I can help you REVEAL YOUR RADIANCE!

Granny Panties, Ugly Shoes and Mom Jeans…

For all of you over 50 women, does this sound like a laughable statement but know maybe you’re one of them. Of course you would never admit it or would you?  The subject of comfortable shoes comes up quite frequently with my clients. How do you find cute comfortable shoes? They usually tell me they’ve succumb to the “ugly shoes” because comfort is more important.

My husband told me recently that granny panties, ugly shoes and mom jeans all go under the frame work of how you see yourself or how you think the world sees you. It got me thinking.  As baby boomers continue to age you have to decide how do you want to show up in the world? Old and ordinary or fierce and fabulous?

I have personally witnessed that there are the women who want to continue their youthfulness and vitality in their 50’s and 60’s in whatever they do. Then there is the camp who has given up and decided they are “old” and their mindset and actions follow.

I hope you have figured it out by now, I am talking about mindset not comfortable shoes, granny panties or mom jeans. Because I think when we decide to go down the road of, “I am old now” our taste in style goes down the drain also.

Instead, how do you want to feel? How do you want to be perceived? There is an energy that follows depending on the answer you chose.

You may need to decide you’re going to step up to the plate and let go of the perceived, I am ordinary, old and over-weight and it doesn’t matter anymore.

I ask myself,

“Why are certain women over 50 afraid to what I refer to as, reveal their radiance”? Have they not come to the point of accepting their bodies? Are they still in the 20 year old mindset of no-style confidence? Did their mothers scar them for life? Did a man in their life not tell them they were sexy? Or did they just give up and say, “Oh I’m fifty now so it doesn’t matter”?

Ladies, ladies you are so smart, full of wisdom, courageous, sexy, amazing and you don’t even know it. One of the subjects I teach on is what is that “made up perceived image” that you have been telling yourself for years?  It’s time to identify it, acknowledge it and replace it with a NEW perceived image of yourself.  It’s time to wear the cute comfortable shoes, vanishing lace panties and hot jeans for women over 50.

Own Your Style Confidence Style Guide (Download Here)

My financial planner tells me I am going to be around until I’m 93 years old so that means I still have 40 years to live, that means these are the good ole days, the days when I have my health, my energy, my 50 year old body that gets me around quite well and lots of choices in life.

It’s time to let go of the 50 years of made-up perceived body image and move into your “ideal image” and live life with vitality. Stop waiting for when the “time is right” or “someday”. That someday is TODAY! Today is the present, a gift for you.

I’m one of you, I’m 55 and loving life to its fullest. Wearing cute comfortable shoes, hot jeans that hug my hips that I forever hated back in my 20’s.  And wearing vanishing no-line panties that flatter every pant I wear.  Life is good.

Are you frustrated each morning when you have to get dressed because your clothes are tired and lack pizzazz?  Do you feel overwhelmed when trying to decide what to keep and what to get rid of in your closet? Do you have some great pieces but need help with mixing and matching the clothes you already have in your closet?

Own Your Style with Confidence - Style Guide - Download Here

If you’re ready to get your style figured out - let’s have a casual conversation so I can get to know you and learn more about what’s keeping you stuck.

Schedule a time https://www.annettebond.com/contact

The History of The Power Suit

The power suit.

Can it really give a woman power? I mean, at the end of the day, it’s just clothing. But in the workplace, a sharp matching suit and jacket with a pristine blouse underneath conveys an air of confidence. A power suit can be a suit of armor. But will it stay that way forever? Do women even need the power suit anymore? Let’s see how the power suit has evolved since its origin and where it’s heading. For Women’s History Month we thought we would take a look at this very important fashion movement.

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1920s - Chanel liberates women

So, how did it all start? We owe a lot of it to that classy French lady Coco Chanel. She was the one who freed women from those horribly restrictive corsets and gave us some room to actually move and breathe! According to the Emerald Street, the original power suit did not involve polyester and shoulder pads, but rather a knitted wool cardigan paired with a matching skirt. This came to be known as the Chanel suit. The suit was usually accessorized with a long string of pearls and was called the “woman’s new uniform.”

Hollywood icon Marlene Dietrich helped popularize the look with her slouchy stylish way of wearing the suit.

1931 - The first wide-shouldered suits

According to Vogue, the house of Rochas introduced the 20th century’s first wide-shouldered suits for women. Marcel Rochas says that his new silhouette is based on the costumes worn by Balinese dancers.

1942 - Kate the Great shows us that suits are for girls too

Katherine Hepburn showed us that a man’s suit could actually be quite feminine. The slouchier the better for this gorgeous tomboy. Her film Woman of the Year made the suit iconic and a wardrobe staple for working women.

1966 - The Suit Gets Sexy

It was this year that Yves Saint Laurent introduces le smoking, the “first male-inspired couture evening suit with pants for women.” Here is a picture of Bianca Jagger wearing the jacket. Of course, this sexy look wasn’t really appropriate for the office.

1977 - Shoulder Pads Enter the Picture

Suits with extreme shoulders became the new fashion rage. The bigger the better. It was all about power.

1980s - Power Dressing

We came into the decade of power clothes in the 80s. Giorgio Armani, Ralph Lauren, and Anne Klein all embraced the powersuit in their designs.

The film Working Girl (1988) also capitalized on the fashion of the decade. Melanie Griffith stars as a smart but undereducated secretary who can’t get ahead, partly because of her looks (big hair, big makeup, big fail). But when she realizes her classy but terrible boss is stealing her ideas, she gets back at her by stealing her wardrobe which includes those classic power suits and a haircut. It’s a Cinderella story, except the fairy godmother is a power wardrobe and the happy ending is a great job (and Harrison Ford).

Donna Karan and other designs started producing “softer suits” which often paired the power blazer with a skirt instead of pants.

1990s - The Softer Side

Madonna’s “Blond Ambition” tour in 1990 featured her wearing a pinstripe suit designed by Jean Paul Gaultier.  Pairing the suit with lacy camisoles and that famous cone-shaped bra she injected pieces of femininity into this masculine ensemble ushering a new, softer era of fashion. Working women started pairing lacy camisoles and floral silk shells with their pant and skirt suits.

With Casual Fridays introduced into offices, Vogue declares it the end of the power dressing era as long flowy dressings and leggings become fashionable.  Chanel designer Karl Lagerfeld says, “There is not only a change in fashion going on, but a change of mind.”

2000s - The Skirt of the Issue

In the second half of the 1990s we were introduced to the television character Ally McBeal (played by Calista Flockhart). A neurotic but successful lawyer wore the power suit blazer, but with a tiny skirt on the bottom. The length of her skirt drew so much attention that Time magazine famously ran a cover featuring Flockhart’s face and asking “Is Feminism Dead?” Power dressing may have been declared over, but clearly people are still paying attention to what women’s clothing says. And some women still look at a pants suit as a source of power. Think of Hillary Clinton—the poster child for the power suit. In 2007 she told David Letterman, “In my White House, we all know who wears the pantsuits.”

2012 - The Death of the Power Suit

According to The Wall Street Journal, the old-fashioned power suit look for professional women is over. The new power look for women includes a soft color (like pink), beading, prints, patterns, and very feminine tailoring—all of which were once considered fashion sins in the workplace. This fashion movement is being sported by women at the executive level who have the confidence to embrace a more integrated and diverse look. We are seeing this trend because there are just more women in these top positions who determine what is an appropriate look for the office.

There has been a shift in what is considered appropriate for women in the workplace. It has moved away from women trying to fit into the stiff, male-influenced power suit.

Christina Binkley of The Wall Street Journal writes, “The matched crimson suit—once deemed essential for a female executive—reflected an era when women tried, often clumsily, to fit into male molds. There was also a militant element to that office apparel.” She wrote of her days at Procter & Gamble in the 1980s when shewas informed by a boss that only the “secretaries” wore dresses.

The power suit “has had a total demise,” says Bridget Brennan, chief executive of Female Factor, a Chicago-based consulting firm that advises clients on marketing to women. Brennan thinks this is happening because women are more comfortable in their own skins and are owning how they dress..

2013 - The Future of Power Dressing

Women can wear pink, not just powerful red, in the office. They can wear florals and lace. They can wear leopard print shoes and flats. That’s right, flats can now be considered just as fierce as heels. Brinkley writes, ”Long stuck in the purgatory of casual wear, flats are suddenly being promoted for polished occasions. Flats sleek enough to be dress shoes were paired with tailored suits and even with eveningwear on the spring runways from Marc Jacobs to Giorgio Armani.”

In a recent issue of  The Hollywood Reporter, female executives in the Hollywood talked about the evolution of power dressing. It used to be all about the power suit but now more fashionable and feminine items are considered just as powerful.

“When I got to town in 1989,” says Blair Kohan, now a fashionably dressed partner at UTA, “everybody was wearing these suits. I had one from Ann Taylor. You didn’t get Armani until you got to the top. I see more expressiveness. Women no longer have to look tough because we are tough.”

Giorgio Armani, who made the powersuit famous, recently said that women no longer need to wear powerful-looking clothes in order to earn respect from their peers in the workplace.

“[Women] have edged out their standing in the world. Today, they don’t have to wear a suit jacket to prove their authority.”

Own Your Style with Confidence - Style Guide - Download Here

If you are ready to get your style figured out - let’s have a casual conversation so that I can get to know you and learn what’s keeping you stuck.

Schedule a time: https://www.annettebond.com/contact

What is your power look? Tell us in the comments!

Five Minute Makeup (Video)

Last week we talked about having an effortless sense of style.

Effortless: showing little or no effort, easy, uncomplicated, fluent, simple, and painless.  I would say most women decide to ignore their style because they think it’s too much work, too complicated, requires too much effort and it’s much simpler to have NO STYLE.

Along with an effortless sense of style comes effortless makeup to complete your look.  I'm not saying a naked face but I am suggesting you take the time to apply makeup in an effortless way.  As we mature, it is natural for your skin to become uneven or possibly blotchy.  I believe we all need some kind of foundation.  Over the years foundation has come a long way, lots of options, and the colors are more natural than ever.  No more orange face.

I also believe in some sort of lip color whether that be lip gloss or lipstick.  I personally like lipstick as it stays on longer. You can always apply my lip gloss over top of the lipstick for that sassy sexy look.  As we mature, our lips start to become uneven, we lose our lip line, and finally one day we wake up and wonder where our lips went.  We all need lipstick!

Audrey Hepburn not only had an effortless sense of style but she also had beautiful and effortless makeup.  She took care of her skin, she applied foundation, lipstick, eyebrows and most importantly she focused on her eyes.  Her big brown eyes were a focal point on her face.

I've attached a "Five Minute Face" video from Global Makeup Artist Shawnelle Prestidge.  In the video she suggests using sunny citrus lipstick.  As a someone who has worked with makeup for the last 20 years, if an orange tone is not your color try a nice pink such as pink satin, pink passion, or  a neutral such as shell or toffee all Mary Kay lipsticks.

The following videos are fun, simple, and fabulous!  Watch all 5 Video tutorials or go to the playlist on the left corner of the screen and click  #5 - 5 Minute Face

Are You Looking For An Effortless Sense Of Style?

Effortless: showing little or no effort, easy, uncomplicated, fluent, simple, and painless.  I would say most women decide to ignore their style because they think it’s too much work, too complicated, requires too much effort and it’s much simpler to have NO STYLE.

I want us to learn from Audrey Hepburn about her “effortless sense of style”.   Audrey Hepburn was comfortable with her body.  She was a size 0 but she also had a size 10 shoe and and a 32 A cup size.  She knew what looked good on her body shape and what didn't, she knew her strengths.   Her style was an extension of her inner beauty.

Let’s take a look at her simple wardrobe in “Breakfast with Tiffany’s”.  All the must have basic pieces every woman needs in her wardrobe.

  • Little Black Dress – (LBD) – that fits your personal body type

  • Pearl Necklace – go for layers

  • Pearl Earring –pick the style that speaks to you and your face shape

  • Black Pump – goes with EVERYTHING

  • Sunglasses -  that fit your face shape

  • Gloves…instead maybe a great Black Handbag

  • Hat…if not a Hat maybe a great Scarf

Take some time to shop for these effortless pieces to add to your wardrobe.  It’s your time to create a style that is effortless, classy, painless and confident.  And before you know it you’ll be sashaying out the door every morning with the Effortless Sense of Style that Audrey Hepburn had.

 Next week we’ll discuss her hair and makeup.

How Do You Define Yourself? (Video)
n a time when beauty is defined by supermodels, success is defined by wealth, and fame is deified by how many followers you have on social media, Lizzie Velasquez asks the question how do you define yourself? Once labeled, "The Worlds Ugliest Woman," Lizzie decided to turn things around and create her own definitions of what she defines as beauty and happiness.

I came across this post on Facebook last week and wanted to share it.  The title was, "how do you define yourself”?  Lizzie Velasquez, a young woman born with a rare condition which causes her to have a hyper metabolism and keeps her from gaining any weight.  After watching this video I’m sure you were thinking the same thing as me, wow life is pretty darn good what do I have to complain about.  As I was watching the women in audience fill up with tears myself included, realizing that if a young woman like Lizzie can have such a positive outlook on life,  I have absolutely no excuses. For Lizzie, the glass has always been half full...I so admire her courage, her strength and the self love she radiates.

For some reason we can get caught in seeing all the negative at times and forget about all the positives.  I remember back in my 20's I hated my thighs.  I would do anything to get rid of those thighs.  Man, I sure wish I had those thighs now in my 50's LOL.  How many times have you been in the dressing room and thought the outfit looked amazing except that one thing...we as women can get hyper focused on our weaknesses.

I am not at all saying not to look and feel amazing in your outfit but I am saying stop defining yourself because it's not "all perfect".  Love yourself just the way you are, see your strengths, see your positives, see the way you give, see your smile, see the way you treat others, and see the glass half full as Lizzie does.

Looking Young In A Larger Size

Not matter what size you are whether it's a size 2 or a size 20 you deserve to feel amazing about yourself.  You can lose weight, or gain weight; have surgeons perform anything from liposuction to mole removal. Ultimately, you'll still have to face the fact that we each get one body per lifetime.

Instead, put "appreciate my body" on your bucket list. Martha Beck suggests, offer no resistance to your body and accept it as it is "completely".  And as Oprah would say, "look at what this body has done for me" in my lifetime.  It's looking at our body with a new appreciation and self-acceptance.  Life is too short to continue to obsess what we choose not to change.

Looking young in a larger size...think of your image as a "full-length" picture. It's the complete look.  By adding the chic sunglasses, the layered chains, the fabulous handbag, the "star jacket" and a pop of color you've now created a head to toe look that's going to have every head twirling!

How To Discover Your Personal Style

To help you discover your personal style, you need to know what inspires you

what colors you love, what images are you drawn to, do you love nature, movies, or celebrity icons? The idea is not to think just about fashion, but to collect ideas from everywhere and everything that inspires you.

Create an "Inspiration Board"

It will encourage you to think in Stylish and visual ways.

Ask yourself, "What do I like? What kinds of clothes, accessories, and colors appeal to me?" It doesn't matter what you think others will like, or what you think you're expected to think. What do you really like?

So when do you know when something is right? You feel it in your gut.

Next, what is it you want to tell the world about your style - what is your story?

Classic, beautiful, tailored, edgy, fashion forward, glamorous, creative, sophisticated, stylish, trendy, powerful, polished - the list goes on. Start by selecting 3 words that define you.

Confidence and knowing what's right for you is 95 percent of personal Style.