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Diane Von Furstenberg on Style and Confidence

Diane von Furstenberg on Style and Confidence

So excited to share with you what Diane von Furstenberg thinks about style and confidence, I think you're going to be surprised.

This is an interview with Julia Louis Dreyfus and Diane von Furstenberg. Her first question, “Diane, tell us what are some staples that every woman should have in her wardrobe?”

Julia Louis Dreyfus Podcast

 And the first thing that Diane said was, I believe that you need to be true to who you are.  You need to add pieces to your wardrobe that represent you.

 Don’t think that is what Julia wanted to hear. So, if you've been following me for a while, you know that my personal philosophy is that style begins with the woman. And not the clothes. And that is exactly what Diane, iconic Diane von Furstenberg was sharing.

Julia asked, “does every woman need a great white blouse?".

Diane said, no, I don't even have one. Does every woman need a black turtleneck? She said, not really, but I love a great black turtleneck. It's all about honoring you.

It's about the relationship that you have with yourself and understanding that.

What is it you love? What are your strengths? What are your attributes?

What is it you love about you that you want other people to know?

An excerpt from her book, the Woman I Wanted to Be. I want to transition now into the iconic wrap dress.

The famous wrap dress made her the woman who she is today.

She did not go out to design the most amazing dress and the idea of selling millions. Her thought was, I'm going to design a dress. That has ease and confidence.

It doesn't have any zippers. It doesn't have any buttons. It's a jersey fabric. It moves with the body. It fits different body types, and that's what her thought was, as she was thinking about the woman.

Her brand is all about the relationship she has with women.

“It's about understanding women and understanding their likes and what is it women want in clothes, says Diane von Furstenberg".”

I absolutely resonate with her philosophy 100%.

How do women want to feel in their clothes? What is it women want to express?

And that's exactly how I work with you. My first style lesson when I work with clients, is called The Power of You, and it's helping you to articulate who is that woman you want to project? What is it you want others to know about you?

Is it an edginess? Is it classic and traditional? Is it creative and fun and sparkly? It begins with you.

It's not me telling you what you should wear. And that's exactly what Diane does as she is designing styles.

“The style may speak through the style or color. Patterns or prints, whether it's the fabrication, whether it's the silhouette, that is how you can express you, says Diane.”

Is, is it very quiet? Is it sophisticated? Is it loud? Is it bright? And then the fabrication, the fabric, how the fabric moves and flows on your body and the silhouette makes the sentence.

Through her clothing and it all started for her with the wrap dress. She says the wrap dress made her. The wrap dress debuted in 1974. She was 27 years old. She was just beginning her business. In fact, I want to share this excerpt from her book, and she says, “As I was watching women become more confident and beautiful, thanks to the new dress, the wrap dress, I was personally becoming more, more and more confident and their feeling more beautiful myself.”

Diane was projecting what she was selling. Ease and confidence. She was becoming one with the dress and what they stood for. She didn’t know it then, but I had become a brand.

She said that every woman had a story about the wrap dress.

Five-six years ago, I walked into one of my favorite consignment stores, and what I loved about this consignment store is that she had two racks right in front of the register, and they were designer pieces and that were brand new consignments.

I walked in and I saw this dress. It was my size. It was the perfect color. The price, oh my gosh. I knew it was a $600 dress and it was sitting on the rack for a hundred dollars. It was like brand new, no one had worn it. I knew I had to have it. And so, you know, it's so interesting how a dress can make you feel.

As Julia says, “It's how you feel inside of an outfit, I don't care if I am walking on the red carpet at the Oscars or if I am taking a hike, when everything is working, you know it.”

I agree 100%.

What does she have to say about confidence? They're one and the same. When you have that confidence and ease in your clothes, when you are honoring you and representing you and understanding who you are. That's when personal style is at its best.

That is when you know that you are rocking your look and there is confidence oozing all over when you walk into a room.

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Essential Ingredients to Elevate Your Style Confidence Part 4: Self-Acceptance

Essential Ingredients to Elevate Your Confidence, Part 4 of 5 Parts series: Self-Acceptance.

Have you caught your self being critical about your image, maybe more than you should?

Saying things like, “I don’t like my arms, I’m having a bad hair day, I hate my middle section?”

What if you began to focus on what you do like about yourself?

In business we talk say, “what you focus on, expands.”

Let’s chat about self-acceptance, I know it feels like a big emotional word.

In simple terms, it is, accepting you as you are.

Recognizing your strengths.

Self-acceptance is one of the most essential ingredients to elevating your confidence and letting your radiance be revealed.  

Love to invite you to be part of my private Facebook Group: Style with Significance where we can continue our conversation.

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Essential Ingredients to Elevate Your Style Confidence Part 2: Courage

Have you wondered if you could pull off a specific look?

But you stopped yourself because you were afraid of what others were going to think?

In Part 2 of the 5 Part series, we’re going to talk about Courage.

You may be thinking what does courage have to do with style and image?

More than you think.

The dictionary defines Courage as bravery, which is also the opposite of fear.

Thirty years ago, I learned a concept from the book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways.

The ‘bullseye’ of a target was a metaphor of staying inside your comfort zone.

When I learned that, it was a picture I wanted to change.

Are you someone who tends to wear the same styles and same few colors all the time?

If you knew that you would not be judged, what would you love to wear? What image would you like to project?

If you never go outside the ‘bullseye’ circle because you are afraid of what others are going to think, how long will you stay in your bullseye style comfort zone?

What if you took one small step towards a style that made you feel like a million bucks?

One small step to the next circle.

Observe your comfort zone of style growing as well as your Courage and Confidence.

You may be thinking, it’s time to be more visible online or when you enter a zoom room.

Try one NEW accessory piece. Maybe a statement necklace. How does it feel?

One baby step leads to the next big step of courage.

Instead of a head-to-toe red dress, maybe it’s a red shoe. A red necklace.

One step of courage leads to increased confidence which then leads to elevating your Style Confidence.

It’s time to look as good as you feel!

If you are feeling stuck in your style comfort zone and not sure how to get out of it or where to begin, I’m here to help.

Let’s Chat, https://www.annettebond.com/contact

Imagine if You Stopped Questioning Your Personal Style

As a woman I have often felt that society has put women into a generality that all women love to shop and have a natural fashion sense.

Agree or disagree?

From my experience, many women only shop because they “have to” not because it is enjoyable.

It can sometimes feel hard and stressful according to clients who I work with.

Well, I did some of my own digging to see where this paradigm began, and this is what I found according to Psychology Today.

According to the socio-biologists, women are linked to shopping in the same way that men are linked to sports. Often women's behavior is explained by something like the "shopping gene": men are the "hunters" (conquering stuff) and women are the "gatherers" (finding stuff).

Interestingly, it began historically, as an offshoot of advertising and commercialism, as a way to encourage women to feel in charge—deceptively inviting them to make choices and decisions of their own.

What if I told you that adopting a personal style was reflective of the real you?

Not what someone else told you to be.

What if I gave you permission to be try new styles that intrigued you?

Garments that made you feel joyful.

Like my client Mary, who wants to experiment with yellow.

Pieces that make you feel beautiful. Maybe a feminine color, like blush pink.  

An accessory that yells, BOLD.

Why not?

It all begins in the investigative process of discovering who are you?

What are your likes and dislikes?

What is your current lifestyle and what kind of pieces can you add that support your way of life?

This is how I work differently.  

We begin with the Power of You.

You are a woman in charge.

And you get to make choices that bring out the best of you and allow you to step into your excellence.

As a personal image consultant who empowers women to get dressed with ease and show up confidently, one thing I know for sure….

Many women question if they have a personal style, and are not sure where to begin.

Join me where we will be talking more about this at my upcoming Style Strategy and Confidence Masterclass on Thursday, June 24th @ 1pm PST.

Register: https://www.annettebond.com/masterclass

Strong Women Advice from My Mother

Strong Women Advice from My Mother

How to be confident can sometimes be a very abstract thought or concept.

You can read books.

Seek advice from other confident women.

Step outside your comfort zone to try new things.

Or maybe you are seeking competence in a particular area of life, and confidence is a natural aftereffect.

If you’re like me, confidence in whatever area of life is something we’re all looking to embody and improve.

With Mother’s Day upon us, I wanted to honor my mother who I only had for 48 years of my life.

My most memorable years were in my teens. She was trying to teach me things that I wasn’t always 100% on board with.

But I listened anyways.

It wasn’t until I was an adult that I appreciated the “strong woman advice” she was teaching me.

Honestly, I’m not really sure that elevating my confidence was the goal she set out to accomplish, but in the journey of her motherly love to help me be the best version of me, confidence was achieved.  

In my vlog, I share the three memorable virtues that I lovingly refer to as, “strong women advice.”

My mother’s strong women guidance is not just helpful advice, but is a gateway to healthy self-esteem, self-love, and being the BEST version of you.

1.       The Golden Rule, treat others the way you would like to be treated.

2.       Believe in Yourself, you can do anything you set your mind to.

3.       Show up as the BEST version of you. Mentally and physically.

As a personal image consultant who helps women with their personal styling and creating confident looks, one thing I know for sure….

Confidence is Attractive